“Fat bodies are seen as “evidence”. People try to claim that our bodies are evidence of unhealthy behaviors, lack of willpower, lack of self-care. Then they claim that this evidence is compelling enough to make it ok to target us for shame, stigma and humiliation “for our own good”. Even more damaging, fat people start to internalize this message thinking “If I’m fat then no matter how healthy my habits are I must be doing something wrong. I deserve to be treated poorly and have my body and choices treated like public property.” This is just not true. Fat bodies are not public property, they are not evidence, and they are not a sign that we need someone to step in and tell us how to take care of ourselves. First because nobody can tell what our habits are based on our body size. Second because our health is our decision – we each get to choose how highly to prioritize our health and what path we want to take to get there, with the understanding that we may be limited by the resources that are available to us.”—Fat Bodies are Not Evidence « Dances With Fat (via mmmajestic)
CLUE 1: “went to short dogs house, they was watching Yo MTV RAPS” Yo MTV RAPS first aired: Aug 6th 1988 CLUE 2: Ice Cubes single “today was a good day” released on: Feb 23 1993 CLUE 3: ”The Lakers beat the Super Sonics” Dates between Yo MTV Raps air…
I thought I should pop in and let you know that 2012 is off to an excellent start.
I rang in the new year in Portland, and had an amazing time, as usual. Ugh, I have such a crush on PDX. I’ve also been working less overtime, and have made clear to my boss that I need to prioritize my mental health over my work, which he totally supports. I’ve been seeing friends I’ve missed and learning to be a semi-competent blues lead and sleeping and doing my dishes and meeting nice people and reading and trying to put myself first. Making space in my life for love and laughter and learning new things. I’m hoping that instead of the BURNOUT 2012 that seemed to be looming for me, I can have CRUSHFEST 2012—where I become reinfatuated with people and places and activities and life in general. We’ll see how things go, but for now I’m tending to optimism!
Because they’re nice to you, doesn’t mean they want you. Because they don’t notice when you touch them, doesn’t mean they’re encouraging you to. Because they laugh at your jokes, doesn’t mean they think you’re funny; many people laugh when they’re uncomfortable. Because they said no with a smile on their face, doesn’t mean they’re joking. Because you saw them naked online, doesn’t mean you can see them naked now. Because they posted their naked body on the internet, doesn’t mean there’s a standing invitation to treat them like a piece of meat. Because you think they want to fuck you, doesn’t mean they want to fuck you.